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Are You Pushing Your women into the Arms of Another man?  

G000dbuddy 34M  
753 posts
11/17/2021 2:24 am
Are You Pushing Your women into the Arms of Another man?


men are often left wondering what went wrong when their relationships fall apart. They don't understand what happened because they don't recognize their role in the dissolution of the relationship. Even if they don't realize it, men often behave in ways that push women away. Suddenly, after months or years of the same destructive behavior, they are amazed that their relationships didn't work.

men with low self-esteem and insecurity issues often try too hard to keep a women. By trying too hard, they inadvertently push away the women they are trying so desperately to keep. men who are insecure are usually clingy and controlling. A clingy man may follow his women around never giving her a moment of solitude. he has to accompany her everywhere she goes. he may hold on to her arm with a death grip that is certain to push her out the door eventually. Clingy men may also cry right on cue every time his women tries to have any alone time. he may suddenly become ill or make another excuse to keep her home . A clingy man makes a women feel smothered and may push her right into the arms of another man.

The controlling man treats his women like a and makes her feel as though she has two fathers. he tells her how to dress, drive and behave. he may even choose her clothes and her friends for him. The controlling man tries to keep his women by controlling every aspect of her life. However, his controlling nature will make it difficult for him to keep any women for very long..

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1224 posts
11/17/2021 2:41 am

Some men simply talk too much. he wants to talk about anything and everything just to hear himself talk. If his partner is silent, he may interpret her quietness as anger. he may bombard her with questions or statements about her silence. "Are you mad at me?" "Why aren't you talking to me?" "Did you hear me?" "Why aren't you answering me?" The constant chatter can be enough to drive a women crazy. Just because she doesn't feel like talking doesn't mean she is angry. However, being mad may make her angry

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Tmptrzz 59F  
104098 posts
11/17/2021 8:58 am

Well said thank you so much I couldn't agree more, but it does take two to make a good relationship work, with lots of communication. Happy Hump Day to you..

Seduce the mind and see what a wonderful adventure the body will take you on..


windsjohn 70M  
771 posts
11/17/2021 9:24 am

Well I pushed her away.. But she didn't go into another man's arms. I wish she did.. She went to "Don't touch me" after the clinging of the kids got to her. Totally frigid.. doesn't even want to kiss. I just gave up and came here.


G000dbuddy 34M  
1224 posts
11/17/2021 6:12 pm

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One reason a person may still be single for years on end...or forever, is because they are an a**hole. Having an attitude towards others and being rude to people is a surefire way to scare people away. Check your own behavior! Want to remain single? Be a jerk. Simple

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1224 posts
11/21/2021 1:23 am

He talks, but doesn't act
People can make themselves into anyone they want to be online. A man can say that he's a businessman who volunteers on the weekends, but does he actually do them? Some people talk a big game to make a good impression, but don't actually do what they claim. Someone who lies for whatever reason, is playing you. Don't be afraid to call out inconsistencies that you find between what he says and what he does.

He disappears a lot
If the man you're talking to disappears a lot, or during certain hours consistently, you might be being played. If a man cannot talk to you outside of work hours, this suggests that he has a girlfriend or wife and family in real life. A man who is free from outside romantic relationships will not have such strict rules about when he can and cannot talk.

He doesn't have an interest in meeting in person
Meeting people online is great, but eventually it has to move to real life. If your suggestions to meet up for coffee are constantly turned down, you might be dealing with an online player who is just having a good time online and intends nothing more to happen.

It's great to meet people online, but you also have to be careful about not getting played. It's hard to really tell if someone is being honest or not, but if you feel uncomfortable that something isn't right, trust yourself, it probably isn't


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G000dbuddy 34M  
1224 posts
11/21/2021 1:24 am

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Other sign can be added
•Dissapear a lot
•Not pick up the phone while he/she is online and chat. (No respect at all mumbling ) so many excuses
Especially if you are using video cam call
•Speak in low tone nearly whisper when he/she answering the phone call
•You are chatting alone, sent a thousands words but the answer reply only 3 words " good morning babe" frustrated
•Not interest to know abd asking about your life.. Not curious or eager like a normal new relationship
•While chatting, he or she replied only one sentence then dissapeared , back again to read and answer later in 5 hours or in the next day.. laugh
•Not interest to answer or skip most of your questions
•Video call is an agony and it is only 10 min.
•Interest only if talking about Sex or intimate parts.. But it is only for 15 min if the chat was failed to stimulate his hormones.. rolling on the floor laughing

Moreover, what can be expected ? except to remove them , because it is waisting time and energy and ofcourse upseting frustrated

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1224 posts
11/21/2021 1:25 am

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WHAT ABOUT THE SIGNS SHE IS PLAYING YOU ALONG LIKE THIS RUSSIAN SO CONVINCING AND SUCH GOOD PHOTOS OF HER WITH FRIENDS AND FAMILY WATCH OUT FOR HER

BEST SCAMMER I HAVE MET FOR YEARS

SENDS THIS AS HER ADDRESS FIRST

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1224 posts
11/21/2021 1:26 am

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All of this article can also apply with women who are playing with men. People are often not who they claim to be these days.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1224 posts
11/21/2021 1:28 am

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I know a few things you can do.
Look for inconsistencies in what he/she says about themselves.
Keep in mind that not all those "women" are even women. Some of them are MEN and they dont give a gosh darn in heck whether you get hurt or not. OR they might actually enjoy it. Further, sometimes those "women" or even "single men" you are talking to are MORE THAN ONE MAN. You might even be communicating with a group of men.
Most people know how to snatch a pic from online and post it as their own. So much for that.
Marriage..frustrated How many times do i have to tell you people about marriage?? HOW MANY TIMES?
Just dont do it. Marriage is an invitation to control you, in ways you cannot even imagine. Marriage puts your money AND LIFE in danger. Just because you're not being told about it for various reasons does not mean it's not happening all around you.
If marriage "keeps your spouse from just walking out on you if they feel like it" then imagine what it's going to be like to live with somebody who WANTS to walk out on you. Or what if they leave you cryin and bleedin in the corner while they go out to a bar and ohhhh you never expected this! Well NOW you got to get a divorce! If you CAN.
I CAN EASILY DO A FEW MORE PAGES, but i'll leave it at that.
Oh-well i cant let this one go though. One more.
If he/she is BLAMING YOU for stuff you know is not your fault, for ANY reason like, they "had a bad day" or it's "PMS" you had better run WHILE YOU STILL CAN!
Ok with great reluctance, im going to end it here.
Good Luck! handshake
And if you get married, you're gonna need it!

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1224 posts
11/21/2021 1:29 am

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You are so right! May I add, beware of the $75000-$100000 salary figure they love to display and pics that taken on the subway.
***Most important if they readily don't want to converse on the site after three messages but want you to give up your phone number before they do, shut it down. They up to nothing good.***

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1224 posts
11/21/2021 1:29 am

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We all know this was started by woman, I wonder if this topic was addressed towards women playing men online, be some interesting comments lol, good chance the post would be removed, or changed towards People online

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1224 posts
11/21/2021 1:30 am

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i am a busy man seeking a good woman,, but it means that no woman wants a true loving here,, i am a busy man but still has time eve in and outside my working hours... but i have not any good woman yet,,, how do i get others to know that i am real and i need a real woman too???

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1224 posts
11/21/2021 1:31 am

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Best advice and all of that fact are true.
Experience will lead you to the right track..
Men who behave as these... Shame on them don't they?


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G000dbuddy 34M  
1224 posts
11/21/2021 1:32 am

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How about if she won't talk on the phone
Wants you to send money before you meet her
Expects you to give out personal financial information (accounts number passwords and such) on the second email
Has photos that are flawless and always tells you how handsome you are when you know your kind if a goober.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1224 posts
11/21/2021 1:34 am

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Boy ... how true ... i might be up in years but my mind is good ... i get stuck with this a lot of times... women are so good at it .. when they don't get the upper hand on you ..they scream out blue murder .. some just like to dangle you on a string ... i get tired of money hits ... i know a lot of guys are scammers and fakes .. but there are lots of women in that boat too.. just be aware ... i can read most now .. and just move on .... good this is out there to remind others .

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1224 posts
11/21/2021 11:43 pm

By the time you are forty, you have probably reached a certain level of emotional maturity that you did not possess in younger years. In addition, you will have accumulated greater baggage. Your knowledge and bias based on past relationships is bound to influence your experience of dating when you are a more mature dater. However, if you use balanced knowledge wisely, and understand how previous dating situations might influence you, there is no reason why dating in your forties need not be rewarding.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1224 posts
11/21/2021 11:44 pm

Mistakes you do not need to make again
If you ever dated someone who showed signs of being poor relationship material before and suffered the consequences, now is the time to cash in on what you have learned. Usually, when someone seems like a bad egg, he or she is a bad egg. In the past, you might have thought that you could transform your crummy date with love and understanding. However, now you know differently and can leave such a person where you find them, safe in the knowledge that having a relationship with him or her would have been a disaster.

In addition, there will have been occasions when you dated people who developed into bad partners. Your relationships started out looking promising, but went downhill rapidly, until you were dumped. Dejected and sad, you sat around wondering what was wrong with you instead of recognizing what was wrong with them, or simply that you were poor matches and had grown apart. These days, you can spot warning signs that your relationships are unhealthy before they develop into heartache


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G000dbuddy 34M  
1224 posts
11/21/2021 11:45 pm

Baggage
Emotional baggage can be a burden if you do not recognize it and take steps to manage debris from the past. Previous relationships that went wrong might have left a sour taste in your mouth. The result is likely to be that you are wary of bonding with anyone new and suspicious about his or her intentions and behavior. Luckily, you have the power to deal with the fall out stemming from past relationship blunders.

Recognize whether you hold any grudges against previous partners. If simply thinking about someone fills you with remorse or anger, you probably have not closed the chapter that occurred when you parted ways. Maybe, you can remember arguments in full or cannot look at photographs of you together without feeling emotional


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G000dbuddy 34M  
1224 posts
11/21/2021 11:47 pm

There are several actions that you can take in order to get over relationship memories that make you blue.
You can imagine that the person in question is in front of you, and tell them how you feel. Get all of your angst and repressed feelings out by saying them aloud. Allow yourself to become angry if this is how you feel. However, when you have said all you need to say, verbally forgive the individual and decide to conclude that you want him or her to lead a happy life without you. Letting go will free you and help you enter new relationships with a clean slate.

Nonetheless, if you still feel the burn of old relationship pain, make sure that you are aware about how your past might creep into present dating situations. For example, if someone cheated on you previously, recognize that you might become jealous, possessive, or paranoid. If you notice such emotions occurring, ask yourself if there is any real evidence to support your concerns. Try not to jump to conclusions, and do give your new partner a chance to prove him or herself before you react to circumstances that you might have judged incorrectly


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G000dbuddy 34M  
1224 posts
11/21/2021 11:48 pm

There is no reason why beginning new relationships cannot be fun. Bring knowledge gleaned from the past to the fore, and do not let past experiences hinder your perception. You might just discover that dating in your forties is superior to dating when you were younger

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1224 posts
11/23/2021 1:36 am

Push yourself out there
Don't sit around at home waiting for something to happen. It won't. This is your life. You are in the driving seat and you are the only person that can make things happen. Although pushing yourself to do new things now that you haven't got a partner by your side to help you through your worries is difficult, it is important to tackle your emotional barriers and get out there. Do what you've always wanted to do, even if it seems small. If you've always wished that you could be a talented artist, sign up for an art class. If you've worried about your weight in the past and have always wanted to do something about it, take out a gym membership. A sudden and dramatic change in your life, such as the end of a relationship, can offer you wonderful opportunities for new life experiences. Grab onto them and you'll soon realize that the future has so much to offer.

The end of a relationship doesn't need to cause an end to your happiness. Reconnect with family and friends and discover the new, confident you. You'll be amazed at how resilient you are and how quickly you find joy again


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G000dbuddy 34M  
1224 posts
11/23/2021 1:37 am

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I was dating online someone for four months and it was good relationship and he was working I think he was, but I feel that letting him go was right thing, Even though it pains me, Best not drag him to my home and eat him like some dragon lady I can't be something scary...I have to move on, and keep trucking...crying

I still feel that painful sting... why did I let him go, But I think he find someone better than me. Maybe fitter. She take care of him and his family, She be in local. sigh

I am not local to anyone nice.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1224 posts
11/23/2021 1:38 am

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Breaking up is hardest for the person left behind . People invariably assume if you're a woman that you're partner cheated or walked . Women are empowered nowadays don't have to or won't stay in a damaging relationship . If you're feeling more sad than happy its time to leave........living on your own has lots of positives as anyone who's being on their own for years will testify . It's the feeling of needing to have someone that leads people to hook up with unsuitable people. It's why people stay in unhealthy relationships .....they're scared of being alone

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1224 posts
11/23/2021 1:39 am

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I thank God for my aggressive self after my separation. I hope and i pray that i make it with my baby.Thank you for this

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PonyGirl1965 55F
20035 posts
11/24/2021 11:12 pm

You are so right! We all have some responsibility for the downfall of a relationship.


G000dbuddy 34M  
1224 posts
11/25/2021 8:19 am

You no longer feel as though you genuinely like your partner:
There are many different signs that you no longer like your partner's personality or their contributions to your life. Perhaps spending time with them has become a burdensome bore to you, or when you think about them you have stopped smiling and feeling a warm glow of affection. You might find every little thing that they do to be deeply annoying rather than endearing, and you may find that even the sound of their voice has started to grate on you. If any of this sounds familiar, it is highly likely that you no longer even enjoy your partner's personality and companionship at the level of friendship (let alone romance)


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G000dbuddy 34M  
1224 posts
11/25/2021 8:21 am

Talking about the future feels awkward and forced:
Planning for your future should be exciting and should fill you both with hope. If talking about where you will be in a few years makes one or both of you feel uneasy and sad, this is probably because of a shared sense that the relationship should not or will not exist in a few years. Similarly, if imagining staying together makes you feel dread and depression rather than a sense of optimism, perhaps your feelings of love have been worn down by the relationship's superficiality or by constant interpersonal struggles. It is also worth noting that if you cannot even picture a future with your partner at all, this is probably an indicator that you're aware of how incompatible your long-term desires and needs really are.


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G000dbuddy 34M  
1224 posts
11/26/2021 11:42 pm

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I agree that both sides need space and that discussion of all things is the most important part of a relationship but getting angry and upset is surely something which happens because of a lack of communication.peace

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1224 posts
11/26/2021 11:46 pm

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I need time to calm down before I can discuss things if I'm upset to that point. I'm pretty easy going- but sometimes a complete lack of awareness of what is going on in another person- or worse yet, complete disinterest- frustrates me to no end

I communicate worlds better by text, email or other written words- because I can find the exact word that doesn't overstate or neglect what I'm trying to get across

In real conversation however, I am usually torn between getting my point across in a fast manner- & finding the right words. Hence, sometimes I come across a lot stronger than I intended.

Women too need Women time & alone time & have work & tasks & cannot answer texts or phone calls whenever

I think a lot of that article applies to both sexes- & my experience would add that it would be a benefit to many men to listen more-

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1224 posts
11/28/2021 5:19 am

Is he into you or are you just a booty call? Don't agree to a "friends with benefits" arrangement expecting more in the future. It probably won't happen, and you may very well lose a friend in the process.

Although some hookups evolve into real relationships, they are the exception. Guys who are into booty calls usually just want to have sex without spending much time or money. Inevitably someone hotter will come along, or he may actually fall in love with someone else. When that happens, you are history.


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G000dbuddy 34M  
1224 posts
11/28/2021 5:20 am

Warning Signs
Determine whether you ever actually go out on dates. Whether he asks and you accept or you ask and he accepts, it's all good. However, if he only texts you late at night and never calls, he's keeping his emotional distance from you. Keep in mind that it's possible to text someone while actually talking to someone else. If he only contacts you to get together on short notice, it's a sign that you have a low priority in his life, and you are probably being played.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1224 posts
11/28/2021 5:22 am

Notice what happens after you hook up. If he cuddles you before falling asleep, you're probably fine. Rolling over and falling asleep is not necessarily a deal-breaker. Sex is physically demanding for men; falling asleep afterward is more about exhaustion than how he feels about you. However, if he jumps up immediately after doing the deed to check his email, or seems anxious for you to leave in the morning, that's a bad sign.
You may have more at risk than having your heart broken with casual hooking up.


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G000dbuddy 34M  
1224 posts
11/28/2021 5:24 am

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I respectfully disagree with some of this outdated article.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1224 posts
11/28/2021 5:25 am

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Before any man take a ride on my booty, they better bring authentic medical records.

If they do, it could be a sign that they will be ready to be in a committed relationship

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1224 posts
11/28/2021 5:26 am

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It's always best to get to know someone before opening your legs

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1224 posts
11/28/2021 5:27 am

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Sadly it's fact of life today You won't be able to tell in advance whether you know them a day a week a month or a year . They are commitment phobic sad creatures who just like the thrill of the chase . They end up alone and forever looking and thinking it's bad luck they're still single never married no kids .if he's a bachelor and over 45 yrs he's going to stay that way . If he's 50 plus and a bachelor and you're looking for long-term run run run .Lots of them online on dating sites with sob stories of why they never married or had kids . It's cos they're too selfish or screwed up no matter what kind of spin they put on it . If he's very good looking has money run even faster in fact don't even bother looking he's a player .

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1224 posts
11/28/2021 5:29 am

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i agree . this happened to me just recent . i was freinds with a guy for little over three yrs .and we talked about everything . the problem with it is i felt like a dumping ground. he had more than one female freind he was hanging out with . and i did not care until i started really like it and we went to far one night and he did not care the next day

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1224 posts
11/28/2021 5:30 am

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If time and time again you are attracted to a certain "type" and the results lead you to be played, used as a booty call, or hurt in general, I think it is time to change your tactics and not seek out that type of person. If these things have happened to you, then you should be aware of the signs and be able to see them coming long before you are hurt.

I have been hurt a few times. I've been played and used. I don't really have a particular "type" of woman I seek out, just "particular qualities in a woman I seek. I think I have honed my senses thru my experiences, and I have become pretty good at spotting a bad one at a distance

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1224 posts
11/30/2021 4:03 am

Missing is not a small word for what i felt when my love is not around... missing can't describe the pain, when seconds seems like hours, hours seems like days and days seems like century... days seems endless and night seems like never ending nightmare... at first the concept of your love being with you is so strong that you feel them with you, looking at you, sitting/standing at several places.. when talking to someone you came to a point where you think that if he would be here , he would have said that and just that mere thought make you smile but you also feel pain inside growing along with it... sometime you feel alone altough you are accompanied by many... some time you just want to hug your love but he is not there, you want to cry on his shoulder, you want to tell that you can't bear his absence BUT you can't, you never can instead you only think it wuld hurt your love more to know that... sometime you just want your day to be ended so you would go home and share things with your love but when you reach home he is not there, the person who make house THE HOME is not there, the place you live is so empty without him that feeling is so painful even i lost my words to explain that.. when love is not around you forgot when you last eat something... you don't feel like eating.. as the day passes by, light falls into dark another thing start coming to haunt you, increase your agony... how you gonna sleep without love... you try to shut your eyes but you can't make yourself go to bed , because no one is there to kiss you good nite, no one to hug you while you are asleep,you can't feel the warmth of your love beside you...it's like hell where you are helpless, then you decide to sleep at love's side of the bed, and hug a pillow like he used to... and this is only the story of one painful whole day... don't know how many days are there more to suffer... but you know you have to manage not for you but for your love... because at the end of the day, he is the only one who does matter the most.. missing you like hell

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1224 posts
11/30/2021 4:07 am

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in your singlehood you can find someone and be sure, not to jump in too quick, of who you want and the qualities he must have, so he'll be there for all your life, as you'll be there for all his life.

True love is honest, and real, and must not be wasted on wrong person. It will be cherished by the one who values honesty and true love, and knows true faithfulness and loyalty is a must.

Honesty becomes true love, and built into these two is faithfulness and loyalty, no matter what. When you know someone have these four qualities, then you can finally be a real couple. Love will grows and grows and in no time at all, your empty hole fills with true love from your self and from your love, who gives his loves to you and back and forth grows and grows and never dies.

I seek these also. It's very rare. No worries

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1224 posts
11/30/2021 4:08 am

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i read your article, thats realy touches the depths of heart. you describe the real emotions of the heart. its realy a great article. God may bless you

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1224 posts
11/30/2021 4:10 am

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This is so deep! And yeah, it's a tough deal when your love isn't (or can't be) with you. Probably most readers here have felt this at some time. And the truth is, people don't function normally when separated from their true love, but rather under some sort of disguise of normality - a cover-up or as best they can under the circumstances.

What I do is recall and keep in mind the good moments - even when you want that shoulder to cry on imagine your love is there for you. Your love resides in your heart and nobody (nor distance) can take that away. So keep it fresh, keep their memory close and love THAT they are, not where they are. As the saying goes, if it's true love, they will return to you, if it wasn't they surely never will.

This may seem a bit etherial, but it is one way to cope ... doubtless, there are other ways.

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