Treasures await inside. I hope. :) Intelligent, passionate, and generous sexual creature seeking sensual (in every sense of the word) experiences. This sounds like I am seeking purely physical gratification, and that is not the whole truth. I don't have any illusions. I am fully aware of the kind of site I am on and have no expectations of making some sort of "love connection." I am not seeking a relationship in the typical "romantic" sense of the word. I do not need anyone to complete me. I do a pretty good job of taking care of myself. All of that being said, however, it is important that anyone with whom I decide to pursue these experiences be someone with whom I feel some sort of affinity. Here's a sort of metaphor. Say you live in a neighborhood where there are two pretty much equal coffee shops. In one of them the coffee is amazing, near Nirvana. The other has pretty great coffee, but not off the charts. The first place has a rather gruff and unfriendly barista. He (or she) is efficient and effective, just not very personable. At the other there is a barista who knows your name, comments on the weather or current events, and sometimes asks about your dog. While I am definitely interested in seeking Nirvana, I think I want to have coffee in the second place. (Maybe I can offer some suggestions on improving the coffee... always start the brew with cold water... or something.) The mental/social nteraction matters more than I guess I'd like to admit. The sex is important. That's why I'm here. --but the mental/social interaction is even more important. Otherwise it just robs the experience of its humanity, and therefore its transcendent quality. I guess in the long run I am looking for the proverbial "friends with benefits" situation. --but with FRIENDS in all caps. The benefits are important, but the friend side is even more so. I don't need someone to take care of me, but I do want someone who cares about me. Perhaps the concept of "no strings attached" being an issue around here (and I am not judging anyone for that) makes me feel it necessary to explain myself more. I hope that I'm being clear - for everyone's sake. --including my own. UPDATE: Please understand that I will need to go through a few steps before anything physical will happen. I will be trying to do my best not to throw pearls before swine. --and sometimes it can be tricky making sure you're not dealing with swine. No offense intended; please don't think that I will assume that someone is swine until he proves such. I'm looking for a "situation", an "involvement", not a "hook-up". I hate to sound like "strings are attached", but I guess some are. Again... "FRIENDS with benefits", FRIENDS in all caps. --and if you are only interested in the sex with no interest in me personally, or if you find that you are not interested in me but don't mind the free sex, I would like to know as soon as possible so I can extricate myself from the situation. I promise not to waste your time. Please don't waste mine. I want a mutually satisfying situation.

My Ideal Person The ideal person would be someone who is interested in me as a person as much as a sexual partner; someone who would be considerate of me before, during, and after any sexual acts.

He would be articulate, intelligent, creative, funny, confident, tender, and kind. He would have a hospitable nature and be tolerant, accepting, and open-minded; yet he would have no problem taking control when that was called for. This is the ideal, of course. There could be more, but it's not really necessary here. -- or at this point anyway.

What are your favorite musicians or bands?:
See #4.

What types of sexual activities turn you on?:
Giving Oral Sex, Receiving Oral Sex, Toys (Vibrators/Dildos/etc.), Light Bondage, Spanking, Mutual Masturbation, Food Play, Blindfolds, Massage, Dom/sub

What factors are most important to you when looking for a sexual partner?:
Articulate, intelligent, spiritual

Have you ever had cybersex?:
I have cybersex quite often.

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